The Four Agreements

 

Healing Tip

 

The Four Agreements

 

Some families always get along well, and others provide us with opportunities for personal growth. This has certainly been the case for me this year. As I observe each of the generations in my family I can see just how differently we each see the world.

As I ask the question:

“How can I more fully accept these differences?” I am reminded of ‘The Four Agreements’ by Don Miguel Ruiz, a practical guide to personal freedom.

  1. Be impeccable with your word
  2. Don’t take anything personally
  3. Don’t make assumptions
  4. Always do your best

If we can follow these agreements then we can start to heal our relationships and families.

 

 

harsh winter environment

Harsh Winter Environment

 

Healing Tip

 

harsh winter environment

We were visiting China a few years ago. Ian took this photo at the top of Mount Taishan. I remember walking along one of the paths when suddenly my feet slipped out from under me. There was some black ice that I didn’t see.

What would it be like to live all year around in a snow-bound location? You would have to consider warmth and protection whenever you leave the house. I think you would also be very tuned in to safety.

We can’t always control where we live. Some people live in harsh environments.

At times we can all have, what I would call, a harsh internal environment. We can be critical of ourselves and of others. It’s easy to believe that whatever has happened is someone else’s fault.

But we can control, over time, our internal environment. We can listen to our self-talk and question its validity. Does it represent the truth? Or am I being influenced by belief systems and mindsets that no longer serve me?

No-one lives in our mind except us! So it is up to us to train our minds if we wish to experience more peace and harmony. This is where a regular meditation practice can really help. Meditation brings calm to the troubled waters of your mind.

It is also good to challenge our beliefs as they can frequently be incorrect. Writing in a journal can be an excellent tool to bring us greater self-awareness and inner peace.

Energy healing techniques like The BodyTalkTM System can also help. Read more…

 

 

protecting your meditation practice

Protecting Your Meditation Practice

 

Meditation Tip

Protecting Your Meditation Practice

 

When you are new to meditation your practice is like a seedling that needs regular water and sunlight.

Just as we protect ourselves from the sun in summer, so too should we understand that to get real and ongoing benefit from meditation we must practice regularly.

Ian and I have been meditating for many years and to new students of meditation we recommend the following:

  • Have a daily practice
  • Set a timer and stay to the end
  • Meditate in the same place in the house, if possible
  • Don’t judge your meditation. Remember to give yourself a pat on the back for keeping up your practice
  • Try not to have expectations. A good saying is to “Accept, not expect”
  • Meditate with others, if possible
  • Read about the benefits of meditation so you can stay inspired when the going gets tough.

Will you make time to practice today?

 

 

The power of observation

The Power of Observation

Meditation Tip

The power of observation

 

Our practice in meditation is to OBSERVE. But you’ll soon discover that the mind likes to comment on everything.

In Mindfulness practice we are training the mind to stay focused on one thing. There is a story in the discourses of the Vipassana 10-day meditation courses that we have attended over the past 20 years that goes like this:

“You invited your mind into your house to be a servant and it has taken over as master!”

So it does require practice to bring the mind under control. Even so there may be times that our agitation is so strong that it will be nearly impossible for the mind to settle. We simply OBSERVE this too. Gradually with practice there is more peace and less agitation.

Our job with meditation is to ACCEPT and not EXPECT.